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The more I read, and explore, the more I find references to Oneness. I can see the abstract meaning in this, but what I would like to know, is how can one make being ONE an ultimate goal? I ask this as an obnoxious person. I am always the first to talk, which keeps me from listening, with my ears or my heart. How can you settle yourself enough, to become one with those lessons that surround you,…